It is truly fascinating how successful people approach problems. They see challenges to embrace and obstacles to overcome. Their confidence in the face of hardship is driven by the ability to let go of the negativity that holds so many otherwise sensible people back.
Maintaining a successful mindset is not easy for it requires emotional intelligence (EQ). There are seven things, in particular, that tend to shatter it. These challenges drag people down because they appear to be barriers that cannot be overcome. Not so for successful people, as these seven challenges never hold them back.
Age really is just a number. Successful people do not let their age define who they are and what they are capable of.
Without failure, people feel compelled to tell you what you should and should not do because of your age. Don’t listen to them. Successful people certainly don’t. You should follow your heart and allow your passion—not the body you are living in—to be their guide.
2. What Other People Think
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own destiny. While it is impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you do not have to hold up your accomplishments to anyone else’s, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
Successful people know that caring about what other people think is a waste of time and energy. When you feel good about something that you’ve done, don’t let anyone’s opinions take that away from you.
3. Toxic People
Successful people believe in a simple notion: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Just as great people help you to reach your full potential, toxic people drag you right down with them. Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people create stress and strife that should be avoided at all costs.
If you’re unhappy with where you are in your life, just take a look around. More often than not, the people you’ve surrounded yourself with are the root of your problems. Keep in mind that you will never reach your peak until you surround yourself with the right people.
Fear is nothing more than a lingering emotion that’s fueled by your imagination. Danger is real. It’s the uncomfortable rush of adrenaline you get when you almost step in front of a bus. Fear is a choice. Successful people know this better than anyone does, so they flip fear on its head. They are addicted to the euphoric feeling they get from conquering their fears.
Don’t ever hold back in life just because you feel scared. We often hear people say, “What’s the worst thing that can happen to you? Will it kill you?” Yet, death isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you. The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you’re still alive.
Life will not always go the way you want it to, but when it comes down to it, you have the same 24 hours in the day as everyone else does. Successful people make their time count. Instead of complaining about how things could have been or should have been, reflect on everything you have to be grateful for. Then find the best solution available, tackle the problem, and move on.
When the negativity comes from someone else, avoid it by setting limits and distancing yourself from it.
A great way to stop complainers in their tracks is to ask them how they intend to fix the problem they’re complaining about. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
6. The Past or the Future
Like fear, the past and the future are products of your mind. No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future. Successful people know this, and they focus on living in the present moment. To live in the moment, you must do two things:
1) Accept your past. If you don’t make peace with your past, it will never leave you and it will create your future. Successful people know the only good time to look at the past is to see how far you’ve come.
2) Accept the uncertainty of the future, and do not place unnecessary expectations upon yourself. Don’t let worrying take place in your life. Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles but rather just makes things worse.
7. The State of the World
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time and you will see it is just one endless chaos. It is easy to think the world is headed downhill fast but successful people do not worry about that because they don’t get caught up in things they cannot control.
Successful people focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort. Focus your attention on all the things you are grateful for, and look for the good that’s happening in the world. Focus your effort on doing what you can every single day to improve your life and the world around you, because these small steps are all it takes to make the world a better place.
Your success is driven by your mindset. With discipline and focus, you can ensure that these seven obstacles never hold you back from reaching your full potential.